If you have relationship issues, you’re not unusual. It is by far the most common reason people come for individual counselling. More than half of my clients want to work on their relationships.
Human beings are not meant to be alone. We are intensely social beings, to a degree that no other animal is. The earliest and most important relationship is with the mother (or person who serves that role), then with the father, and then with our friends. As we grow into adulthood, most people look for a mate, a life partner.
Many of us dream of being in a relationship that will solve all of our problems, but the reality is that an intimate relationship is no place to hide. We may feel dissatisfied with our partner, but the real problem is usually closer to home.
The difficult truth is that if you want to love and be loved, you must first take care of yourself. Doing this healing work with a counsellor is one of the most powerful steps that you can take.
The questions that come up in counselling are varied. Not all of them will apply to everyone, but most people will have had to consider issues such as:
• Why can I not love?
• Why can’t I find or keep a partner?
• Why do I behave badly towards someone I love?
• Why can’t I say no?
• Should I break up?
• Why can’t I stop being angry at my former partner?
• Why do I choose the wrong people?
• Why don’t we have sex any more?
• Why will no-one love me?
• Am I in an abusive relationship?
• How can I support my partner in a difficult time?
Counselling with someone who isn’t involved in your relationship can help you to untangle these difficult issues, and start to find the answers you need.
If you need some relationship help, why not get in touch?