There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain. – R. D. Laing A woman in her thirties, despite being in excellent health, worries endlessly about death. A middle aged woman,…
‘Waiting’ is a song that’s been in my head for weeks. It’s about longing for a lost love, but for me it’s had a different meaning than simply missing someone. In my own journey I’ve had to build connections to my inner self, to learn how to care for my vulnerability. This…
There’s a saying that an optimist is someone who knows how bad things are, and a pessimist is someone who’s still finding out. That sums up a truth about the process of healing. Most people don’t want to start the process, because it means finding out bad things. And then it…
I have no evidence for saying this. It’s just something that came to me a few years ago: every superpower is really a disability. I used to think that I had a superpower, you see, which was my ability to turn off my feelings, and stay calm and unruffled when other…
“I’m 35. Shouldn’t I have worked this stuff out by now?” “Ten years ago, if you’d told me I’d be sitting here talking to you, I would have laughed in your face!” “No offence, I feel like a failure just being here …” As counsellors we hear a lot of…
